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My guides teach that in following Universal law (not always listed as a separate and specific law) we find harmony, happiness or dysfunction and unhappiness not in our chosen partner but in the actual relationship.
As humans, and most especially females or those with more female energy and characteristics, we tend to attach our potential for happiness upon a person. As a relationship progresses we become more and more “attached” and as we become at risk for losing our self-identity we also make the mistake of placing all of our hopes or aspirations for happiness upon one individual. If we are receiving attention and our partner is making efforts that support the commitment to the relationship, we can idolize such a person and over time we develop the belief system that our specific partner or one specific person holds the keys to our life’s happiness or unhappiness.
When a relationship becomes dysfunctional, or should our partner exit, we often feel that all of our dreams, hopes and chances for happiness leave with such partner. And although the feminine energy seems to be more prone to this reaction of emotion, male energy can also fall prey.
The danger here is that over time we become dependent upon a partner to keep or make us happy, and when we are unhappy or not in balance or harmony, we tend to affix this to the person, when in reality it is always the RELATIONSHIP that defines our level of satisfaction and completion.
Each romantic relationship, regardless of orientation begins by some type of connection. While generally this is an attraction and a Karmic feeling (Karma defined as the “supposed to be”) we can also develop a strong, lifelong relationship with someone who originally was just a good “friend”. In order for happiness to be complete and lasting, both partners must learn the order or the “trinity” or “trine” of a relationship, and the point or top is the relationship itself, with each person being on either side at the bottom. So if we look at the picture, then we can say the top heart or the vertical point represents the relationship, while the bottom hearts represent each individual.
Although this is in no way meant to imply that as humans we can simply go out and make a selection for a potential life partner in the way we may choose a vase for our home, it DOES rule that it is the relationship that is always the focus, the energy and the vibration of harmony or chaos and not the attachment of either person. By understanding this Universal and Spiritual law, and being able to respect each relationship as a separate entity, we can often save failing relationships or empower ourselves to leave those which no longer or do not serve our highest good.
Our potential as humans to connect on a spiritual and romantic level with other humans really has no limits. Who we spend our life with, or any length of time depends on our Karma, life path, external circumstances and most important; the actual “relationship” itself.
When both persons are committed equally and in balance and give the highest attention to the relationship only then can we truly achieve peace, harmony and happiness. When we attach ourselves to the person, we become immobilized to make shifts, or to change patterns that have developed. No matter how much we may feel drawn to, connected with or “in love” with a particular person if the relationship is either non-existent or in a state of obstruction or chaos, we can never achieve true peace and happiness.
An example of attaching to the person and placing the actual relationship below or as secondary to the person is as follows; we feel strongly connected to a person and feel such person is the “one” for us. We may obsess over their thoughts, feelings and intentions, because their actions are not apparent or obvious within the relationship. So perhaps the person makes little or no effort to interact, there is little or no contact and a full commitment is absent or flawed, yet because of our “feelings” we continue to hold on ignoring the obvious dysfunction or even existence of the relationship.
In couples that are emotionally intimate, equally committed with mirror image intentions for the future, keeping the relationship as the top priority can assure us of a happier, balanced and continually flourishing relationship. For existing healthy relationships, following Universal law means as an example that all of our decisions are made with consideration to the relationship first and foremost and our energy and attention is directed towards the relationship before the person. So for example if you are aware that your partner can be a bit insecure, you cater your actions to serve the highest good of the relationship, which in turn serves yourself and your partner. Although at times there may be some overlap; meaning what’s best for the relationship is also best for self or partner, there still needs to be a conscious effort to continually see the relationship as a separate entity, and to evaluate the success or dysfunction, and the future potential as well as the present reality on what the actual relationship provides or lacks.
Universal law applies to all relationships, of all levels, although as humans for most if not all of us our most important or most desirous relationship is romantic or that of a life-partner, mate or close and intimate companion.
So no matter how strong one’s feelings may be, nor the Karma; (defined as the feeling of supposed to be) and regardless of the feelings and input by our partner or the other person, if the relationship is ineffectual, chaotic, strained, or totally ignored, it is then impossible to achieve a happy and harmonious life with someone, regardless of how strongly we may feel.
So when you are struggling, whether friendship or family and most important a romantic interest; take a step back even perhaps making a list and honestly evaluate the merits of the “relationship”. These are not personal characteristics and should not read as, she is caring, or he is sensitive to my needs, but instead should be things such as, he/she makes all efforts to support and encourage relationship growth. The decisions are always made with the best interests of the relationship. The happiness or unhappiness is the direct cause and effect of the relationship and its influence in my/our life.
We as humans place emotions as the ultimate factor, when in truth it is the RELATIONSHIP (or lack of) which is the highest point at which we can aspire to, or be successful with.
Humans are so quick to assume that chaos; obstacles and experiences which cause us to face reality or make difficult choices are “confusing”. Yet in reality my guides teach that there are extremely limited situations which are truly confusing. An example for true confusion would be road signs which contradict the other. Perhaps the work zone slower speed sign remains, yet it’s evident that there is no longer any active construction. Or enjoying a meal at a buffet; the sign above what is not fully identifiable says both pork ribs and beef tips. In general when it comes to making decisions, or reconciling when reality converges with our desired outcome, we are in conflict. While our Spiritual core knows the difference, we shun that light so that we can build upon the ideology of “confusion” which literally enables a dysfunctional pattern or belief.
My guides have taught me that 99% of the time we feel “confused” in regards to a relationship, person or even career/job, the truth is we are in conflict between what we know inside to be true, versus what we want to be true. Our fear creates this safe place called confusion, so that we can delay accepting the truth and instead seek to justify what we simply do not want to accept. True confusion is, or can be sorted through logical deduction and reasoning, but true conflict wreaks havoc with our emotions and finds us scrambling to uncover reasons, justifications and self-compromise to avoid what is generally inevitable; reality and acceptance.
The next time you find yourself feeling “confused” take a closer look at your situation, the width or span between what is and what we wish to be. By recognizing conflict for its sheer truth, we can face those difficult choices and reconnect with our higher self, which then allows us to step forward towards our highest path. Confusion creates no emotional or Spiritual reaction and conflict does nothing less.
The energy of entering into a new year is always powerfully influential, and for most humans, filled with anticipation, excitement and the promise of change.
For January 2015 in addition to the expectations or hopes of opportunity and reward there is an undercurrent of impatience combined with the long awaited shifts many have been preparing for. Following on the heels of a month of instability and unexpected bouts of chaos, January stands out in the Universal or Collective energy to pursue new destinations, paths and shifts with a strong sense of urgency. For many of us the past year although spiritually profound and provocative; it has proven to be challenging and filled with major or significant changes in all areas of our personal lives.
So my guides share their insight on the potential for this vivacious month and offer guidance on avoiding possible obstacles or “roadblocks”. We will look at the Universal lesson or energy, weather patterns, relationships and career and financial influences. Just an interesting side note here; while the prior holiday season is generally associated with some chaos in the rush to prepare for traditions and celebrations; December 2014 was actually rather sluggish and the general energy emitted from Divine or Universe was often perceived as feelings of being scattered, ill-prepared and in some cases just the feeling of being detached from the more traditional feelings of connections. So January more than makes up for the lack of motivation felt or the inability for many to finish tasks, solidify changes, plans and renew our spiritual trinity.
1) The Universal influences and energies; we are quickly shifted into action and filled with a strong urgency to accomplish what has been set aside. Our lesson is per se is to take actions without being reckless. Balancing our lives both personal and spiritually is the “unchanged” factor and remains true in January. However as we are constantly urged to move forward, to put into action intentions left behind or set aside. We all seem to feel the pressure of not missing out on opportunities or our potential and it’s certainly a strong lesson and influence of moving quickly and creatively into the embrace of this new month, New Year.
2) Relationships and social opportunities; for those already connected in healthy and functional relationships, there is little risk for miscommunication, pressure or misunderstandings. Harmony seems to advance quickly and any reunifications are achieved with ease and rapid compromises. In general social networking is a bit fast and furious. Those still seeking to find a partner or soul-mate will find themselves surrounded by a myriad of energies (other humans) and waves of invitations, functions and the potential whether friendships or romance seem to be non-stop and ever present. For those that recognize the need for release, especially romantic partners but all relationships apply; January gives offers us the strength and determination needed to finally sever ties. In situations where release, letting go or exiting those dysfunctional relationships seemed impossible to accomplish January brings almost instant relief. Past attachments or fears that prevented us from moving on are suddenly cleared and January is perhaps one of the best or highest months in allowing us to reclaim our personal life and highest good by exiting toxic relationships. The strong urgency January brings should be heeded and those that deny or block their recognized need to exit will find anxiety, stress and constant interruptions if unable to move with the flow.
2) Weather patterns and outlook; while my guides predicted the year as a whole as being globally warmer, January seems to contradict that as we cycle from above average to intense cold weather patterns even in tropical climates/countries. Because the Universal energy is that of urgency, the potential for small but strong storms will be reflected this month, with many areas being hit with snow, ice and rain. These weather patterns will move extremely fast across the regions and although some will be fairly significant, because they move at such a fast pace, they will be unable to develop into major storms or linger for long. All weather systems in January will come in short bursts of either strong storm systems cycling with warm and unusual patterns. The majority may be miscalculated by meteorologists as they remain perplexed at the fast moving shifts that occur.
3) Finances, economy and careers; While December (and perhaps prior months) may have seemed to be at a standstill, January sets again this fast paced and abundance of opportunity. The economy will grow and expand and while economic growth may not remain stable, for January the energy suggests growth, revenues and great success for businesses and global economy including investments and stock market. Those that are seeking career changes will find opportunities in all directions and the obstacle will be factored around making choices rather than having little or no opportunities. Because there is such abundance throughout this month, the warning is to be cautious in career shifts and changes and to guard against accepting positions for fear of being without. It’s important for our general lessons this year and our personal spiritual growth to remain strongly connected to our highest self, so that any decision or shift is based on moving towards our goals and not simply “settling”. Let these powerful and fast moving energies work for you as now is the time to be choosy not desperate.
Wishing all a wonderful New Year and all your dreams, goals and desires are realized. Be sure to take advantage of the rush of energy and the pace that can assist us in making better choices and acting out needed shifts and changes. You may have that feeling of “are we there yet” and the answer lies within YOUR power to manifest and create the highest outcome.
The 8 year in numerology is generally known as the year of power. It manifests energy on the material plane for the most part, but also addresses one’s personal spiritual grown. There is very little grey area energetically in 2015. The energy of the 8 year can go one of two ways; either to the positive or the negative.
On the positive side it is a year of personal empowerment development. The road seems clear to those with direct and specific goals in mind. It is a year that brings prosperity to those who focus on business. It also brings prosperity and growth in the spiritual aspects of life. It starts with the surprising realization that we have very little influence over anyone but ourselves. With that realization we are able to let go of the ‘what if’s’ and certain expectations of others in our life. With those expectations put into a place of “I have no power or influence over this or this person” we can begin to focus on what we can influence and change: Ourselves. In this goal, the energy of 2015 promises great growth as it approached with expectations in check.
In terms of finance, it is a good year of growth. We can expect that our efforts are met commensurately with our income. It is also a year that is ideal to enact those projects we have been mulling over in terms of business. Those with a personal numerology 1 year should especially begin those new projects as in conjunction with an overall 8 year it is a particularly propitious time.
As the 8 year plainly expresses its energy on the material plane, we can expect to see country economies grow unless leaders fall into the more negative aspects of the 8 year.
Now, on to the more negative aspects of the 8 year. Among the more negative energies of 2015 will be greed, superiority and anger. Those countries and people who fall into these energies can expect to find a lot of frustration in making headway to repair or grow. Although the energy is conducive to great grown, particularly in the material, the world of business can be a very cold and competitive place. However, with those expectations in their proper place, these aspects can be managed. For example: Some might try to take short-cuts in their business in order to earn money faster or earn better than competitors. As a result of cutting corners, the product quality suffers and there is failure and frustration. This is not a year to compete with others, rather to focus on your own projects and business. Continue your work with practicality and do not allow jealousy or yearning of other’s success break your focus goals.
On a spiritual level the negative aspects can have even greater consequences. Falling into anger, superiority and contradictory emotions instead of doing the work necessary on the emotional level can lead to pain, insecurity and failure of relationships. It is important to keep ego from becoming over-inflated and self-important at our initial successes in both spiritual and material planes. This can lead to a false sense of security which will certainly see the harsh light of reality in the 8 year.
To all the readers of this blog: I wish you a most prosperous New Year of 2015.
Join me as I share with readers the insight my guides have provided on the coming year’s events. From our Universal lessons and influences to the entertainment industry and global weather trends. We will explore what my guides have highlighted to be some of the most significant and profound energies, circumstances and shifts that they predict to take place. We will offer general insight and guidance in achieving balance and what if any warnings are to be heeded to avoid potential roadblocks or obstacles. Also be sure to read my “monthly guidance” blogs for more specific insight on each of our 12 months.
As you may have guessed from the title, the year 2015 is not a year without challenge and difficulty. Although there is much being shifted and therefore some chaos is to be expected, there is always an alternate path or opportunity. For the coming year I am shown a “bridge” and this indicates the potential for crossing over and above the most turbulent of times. While last year, 2014, was centered on renewal of spirit and enlightenment of soul connections; the New Year focuses on strengthening the foundation and reinforcing the message we all need to hear.
Although there are many views on the spiritual messages and vibrations being transcended, many would agree that a time of great change is upon us. And we must always remain aware that we are spiritual beings living an earthly or physical life. Therefore there is always the influence of the Universal or Collective that urges or propels us to achieve and/or maintain a state for the greater good of all living or spiritual beings. And within those Universal lessons and experiences we do of course have our personal journeys, paths and purpose.
So from the Divine energies, the parallel of upcoming weather patterns and events, to economy, political and media agendas and even noteworthy news from the entertainment world, we will take a look at what lies ahead!
1) Our Universal lesson/Collective consciousness
As we move from an extremely motivational year (2014) into the new cycle, Divine/Creator/Source or whatever term resonates with your personal belief system, we are all being urged, even pressured a bit to solidify the esoteric changes that began last year and to follow these with strong intentions and positive actions. The way to achieve balance in 2015 and to align with the universal flow is to maintain our higher state of awareness by working from our core or highest self. This simply means that we embrace our “grid” or our inter-connection to life itself and all those within the circle of light and life and we allow our view and perception to include what offers the greater good. The opposite of this influence is to retreat into the ego-self and return or attempt to remain in a superficial state, represented solely by material gain, and personal favor. For those unable or unwilling to make the necessary sacrifices to achieve the spiritual connection or at least attempt to serve the brotherhood of life; there shows to be almost constant chaos and conflict. And although material gains may be had or garnered, the sacrifices paid will be extremely high and there appears to be great loss for those turn their backs so to speak and blatantly pursue a hedonistic way of life.
The first and last quarter of this year seem to be the strongest in terms of potential, opportunity and the choice to “cross the bridge”. For those humans that shift into their highest vibration; being true to self will automatically open up the channels for universal connections and harmony, peace and abundance will be restored or achieved. So the analogy then becomes that life is the turbulent and fast moving water. The bridge represents the highest path of potential as we continue to relate on our highest levels.
2) Relationships, romance and love
Once again my guides ask that we envision the “bridge” and in terms of relationships, both romantic and otherwise, the bridge becomes our capacity for compromise, acceptance and the ability to give and show love without expectation. To be clear, acceptance is NOT meant as an excuse to compromise our higher self, morals or as justification, it is acceptance in a purer form that we are imperfect and can embrace that the same is true of a partner, friend or family member; that we are able to place the value and good of the relationship above that of self-serving needs, to offer support and encouragement.
It also denotes the ability to “cross over” in our energy from that of finding fault to gratitude. All healthy relationships should be nurtured with the intention of commitment and honesty. For those that have united with a soul-mate or life partner, there will be external challenges and temptations and the lesson is to be able to separate what is external or out of one’s control from the spiritual energy of self and partner. There is much opportunity for reunification of those currently in separation or apart, assuming that the baseline or foundation of such a relationship was built on healthy, functional and solid ground. For those that are seeking; the first few months may be somewhat bleak and we must guard against conjoining with someone for the sake of eliminating loneliness as opposed to true harmony and balance.
After about March the potential for finding soul-mates and/or life-partners becomes extremely high. And love often arises in unexpected places or in random meetings. The energy to assist in drawing in a partner or soul mate is to be flexible and open and to allow gratitude to flow even prior to a connection. For those that have clung to low energy, dysfunctional or otherwise toxic relationships, there will simply be no bridge. With no way of crossing, such relationships will end. Those that were unable to serve their highest and clung to such relationships will find a difficult journey in severing ties, but once accomplished balance can and will be restored and an important lesson learned.
For those that followed their calling and are well on their true path, abundance and prosperity will continue to be stable and forthcoming. There are many of us that have yet to make the much needed transition and 2015 offers many golden opportunities to pursue our dreams and find our true path. Again we see that the “bridge” appears, providing us with a smooth walk to our higher purpose.
The economy will grow stronger but at a slow pace. There will be short spurts of stalling out, and these seem to cycle about every 8-10 weeks or so. In between the Universe is again providing ample opportunities and unlimited potential for those that heed the call to action and set aside fears and/or limitations to pursue changes. Abundance and prosperity is within reach but is reserved for those that first succeed at balancing their energy and placing intrinsic satisfaction above only material wealth and gain. For those that choose to gamble happiness for wealth, there is much chaos and although fortunes can and may be made, they are just as easily lost.
In the domain of global and world-wide trade and economy; there are many shifts as we transition to solidify our foundation in 2015. There feels to be significance around the trade and shipping industries. Also large companies will be seen reinvesting back into the “people” of their own countries, and this restores not only the economy of that specific country but also restores the faith and motivation of employees and workers. The stock market remains fairly stable, ups and downs per usual with large investors taking more self-interest which again serves the greater good and is thus rewarded with prosperity and intrinsic balance and harmony.
4) Weather patterns and trends
As we all know 2014 was unprecedented in the number of natural disasters seen throughout the globe. As we shift energies universally we also see and feel these changes in the weather patterns. Aside from the random, my guides feel that in general the global trend will be warmer weather and focus shifts from the earth’s core and crust again to the water (remember the bridge) and water related events. My guides predict that the biggest or most significant weather events will be flooding; both as in overflow and due to large amounts of rain snow and ice.
They have always shown to me symbolism between the current or present universal energies (lessons) and the weather. And for 2015 we are being urged to tighten what was begun in the past and to move to higher ground. For those that reside in flood plots or near water there feels to be an above average amount of flooding and water based storms.
I am not shown that the weather will be nearly as overwhelming as what we have already experienced. Instead there feels to be a more constant yet less intense barrage of storms that again are water based or arise from water. They feel that the countries such as Australia that suffered from terrible droughts will be rectified and therefore farming should be quite successful, even though there is some risk of flooding. All in all we can expect somewhat warmer temperatures, and less in the way of earthquakes, faults, volcanoes and even tsunamis’.
5) Political, government and national security issues
We already have witnessed much surprising change in the form of presidents, the pope, leaders and government policy. Peace has been barely attainable and the overall energy of the past year or so feels a bit threatening. Towards the middle of the year my guides predict that many countries will unite together and form a new and much stronger bond to stand against terrorism and threats against peace. Again the bridge seems to indicate that there will be a clear path for those that seek the highest good of all and the call will be heard and heeded. The general or overall energy is one of less strain and more harmony. There will however be some threats from smaller groups, and my guides feel that potentially 3 countries, including the USA will uncover a fairly organized threat.
As I write this the news has been broadcasting a missing flight. And my guides feel this will be repeated at least twice if not more in 2015. However I am told that those responsible (not including the current event) will be found and held accountable for their conduct. As this higher unification occurs, both within countries and extending to groups or multiple countries, by around the end of July-August, there feels to be a security embraced by all and a feeling of safety and ample protection that has been lacking for quite some time.
At this time my guides mention the strain that is constant in the Holy land of Israel. It had been predicted (by my guides in 2014) that Israel would finally receive immunity and protection, obtaining global recognition as a place of historical, spiritual and biblical significance. Although there has been some recognition, the fight for Israel, specifically Jerusalem will be settled and by the end of 2015, this holy land will be led by its true people with the aid of many others. My guides use the word, “resurrection” and this will be an extremely spiritual enlightenment for many.
6) The media, news and entertainment industry
Aside from the typical coverage of almost fear mongering; my guides share with me that late in 2015 there will be some type of “leak” that seems to be based or centered around the US. This will be a huge contention that will involve civilians, military and government officials. They feel that there has been or will have been a discovery that is phenomenal in nature that was intended to remain top secret or disclosed only to those with the highest security clearances. This news will make headlines across the globe and create mass speculation and provoke endless theories. This I am told will originally be denied, but after much prompting, full disclosure will be given to the American people which in turn will then impact other countries, governments and leaders to become involved. This will become a historical or epic event, which will be as important in terms of discovery and validation as walking on the moon, or other such phenomenal events.
In the US we have suffered the loss of several very well known and loved entertainers in this past year. Although not always front page news worthy, there has been a lot of growing dissention among the entertainment world. In 2015, especially in the US; but also the UK, Australia and Canada (the largest) sprinkled throughout the months and beginning as early as January; there will be a major split or battle with a very recognizable icon. This is not a person, but more of a “label” and similar to the above mentioned leak, the details of such will be shocking and will forever change the industry. It may not occur overnight, but well into the year there will be a totally new system of checks and balances so that for example subsidiaries of major companies will be required to use the recognized name. Just as purely example, let’s say that a cola company called “Bob’s cola” also manufactures and sells alcohol but uses a different logo, icon and name. This uncovering will prohibit such companies from “flying under the radar”, so that the consumer is able to make an informed decision when purchasing products and/or services.
In conclusion, 2015 shows to be a very interesting and diversified year. There will be many disclosures on many different levels which although will create chaos initially, offers the outcome of the restoration of peace and balance. They say that “knowledge is power” and the people will rise strong as they become more informed again on many levels with these various revelations. These disclosures also help to guide us towards achieving our Universal lesson of continuing to build a solid foundation for which our spiritual beings and energy can be embraced and acknowledged.
“Knowledge is Power”
We are moving closer and closer to uniting with self with one another and in a collective and significant way along our true spiritual paths. For most of us 2015 will be a year of reckoning; the pursuit of our dreams, the clarity of purpose and the movement of joining together all living things and to our Divine.
I wish you all the very best this exciting and energetic year has to offer. And if you find yourself stuck, conflicted or confused, simply look for the bridge and make your way as you continue on this amazing journey!
1. Set a goal.
2. Forget the past
4. Out with the old and in with the new!
As the holidays draw closer and depending on your traditions, many of us are already in celebration or recognizing and participating in our festivities. Along with the various holidays, and even those that are not well defined or do not fit in one of the traditional “molds”. Gift giving or the exchange of presents whether material goods, time or even sharing ideas and goals, there is an exchange taking place in some form.
There is no denying the pleasure one feels when watching another person open a gift that was shopped for, planned and chosen with care and for their individuals tastes, preferences and needs in mind. There is also the reciprocation of joy, opening a gift that someone has chosen for you, and not only admiring what has been received but acknowledging the anticipation of the giver and their joy as well.
And although we are in no way suggesting that actual gift giving be curtailed, or that literal gift giving, exchanges or presents do not bring joy, happiness and added fun to our holiday season, there is also a gift we all have the ability to give that lasts and is appropriate for any holiday and season.
The gift of our time and caring.
We often rush through our lives, busy working, perhaps raising a family and consumed with time, the clock and all the physical demands of life on earth that we can lose our perspective. Then the holidays come and we suddenly reconnect with friends and family, join in office parties or celebrations and for many of us take time to enjoy those we surround ourselves with.
We don’t always stop to think that perhaps a friend, a co-worker, an aunt, uncle or even a parent is often neglected or somewhat ignored for the other 11 months of the year. The fact is, it may be those other months, and other times that our gifts from the heart are needed much more than the toaster, slippers or beautiful bracelet given during our holiday season.
Love is the gift that never stops giving, and love needs to be given and expressed, not just felt or acknowledged. Love or a display of caring, concern and support can make the difference for another person in a good day or week or a lonely one. Sharing yourself with others and taking time throughout the entire year to offer some encouragement, words of praise, gestures of friendship or love should be something we make our tradition for the entire year!
Imagine what a small token to show you care or are thinking of someone has the power to do for those that may be struggling in life. Perhaps it’s baking something homemade for no other reason than to let a co-worker know that you care. Or maybe a card sent to a family member without the excuse of a holiday just to say; ‘I am thinking of you’. Or perhaps a friend has been struggling, take a few minutes out of your day to call and offer support. Just the gesture of reaching out and letting another person know you care or have been thinking about them can be a true gift that lasts and never goes out of style.
So many little things we have to offer others that only require a small bit of our time and have the power to bring a smile, joy and for the recipient to know that someone out there is thinking of them and not just during the expected time of year. The holiday season is of course the perfect time to share our bounty with others, whether you give to charities, volunteer with local toy drives or just bring special goodies to the office to share; it’s a magical time of goodwill and joy.
Use this holiday season to not only give as expected or perhaps even required, but take the spirit of the season and save an extra piece of the spiritual joy to hold with you for the upcoming year. Be the person that makes a difference in someone else’s life when it’s least expected and most appreciated and needed. While the holidays may only last for a specific time, the spiritual energy and our ability to “give” doesn’t have to end, and can become a part of our “tradition” the entire year. The small effort required to brighten someone’s day, to offer support or a friendly call, note or card has the power to bring the holiday spirit to someone that needs such a gift and the reciprocation of knowing how we have touched another person’s life and brought a smile, or filled their hearts when they were empty is a gift we also give ourselves.
So as you partake of the holiday this year, take a moment to sit back and realize the potential that exists to give that gift that continues to give, simply by showing someone that you truly do care. We do not have to limit ourselves to giving only once a year; and the best gifts always come from the heart, those gentle reminders that someone is thinking of you, a few minutes of your time, keep the season going and make it your goal to be one that gives that gift of love, you never know when you may be in need and someone else will be giving that gift back.
Most cultures have a once a year celebration for those who have passed on. Nov 2nd is Day of the Dead in Mexico, Oct. 31st Samhain (Halloween) and the 15th day of 7th month in the lunar calendar is Hungry Ghost Month in China (14th day in Southern China). Loved ones whom have passed on always remain in your heart and thoughts. The holiday season is also a great time to show your love for them.
Respectful ways to honor the Spirits:
1. Lighting incense. Incense is one of the most common and beneficial ways to honor the dead. During Ghost month in China it is tradition to light incense every day for the spirits. In Tibetan culture incense is looked upon as their food. Just as we eat food, the spirits receive air as their nourishment. So incense is a way for them to take in your love.
There are different ways to make the incense more readily consumable. One way to do this is to say a prayer from your heart and another is by chanting the Tibetan chant ‘Om Namah Sarva Tathagata Avalokite Om Sambhara Sambhara Hung.’ The chant is to be chanted a minimum of 21times, walking around clockwise in each room of the entire inside of the home and outside three times, once completed a request for positivity in your life may be made.
Where you burn your incense is crucial. Use their photo and create a small little altar in the home in honor of them and burn the incense offering there or outside if you are doing it for all spirits. Always keep the altar clean to show your love. Choose the location of the altar with care, and never place it in the restroom. We must always show respect to the spirits as they also watch over us.
The quality of incense you choose is important, always choose pure quality not mixed with perfumes or chemicals. This is their food after all we want to show them our love by giving them good quality incense.
Types of Incense (general burning purpose):
Lavender (good luck, positive attitude)
Sage (purify, protect, cleanse)
Frankincense (elevate, clear, protect)
Myrrh (purify, revitalize)
Cinnamon (relationships, relaxing)
Palo Santo (purify, cleanse, protect)
2. Food offerings. On the Day of the Dead in Mexico it is customary to leave special bread out for your loved ones that have passed. On Samhain (Halloween) which is the celebration of the ending of the harvest year it is customary to serve a plate at dinner for your loved ones. For food offerings leave a place for them to have their meal during the celebration. You can give fruit, bread anything that feels right -if you know their favorite food great give them that. This helps them feel like they are still appreciated and are a still part of the family.
Remember if you are going to leave some food out this food is for them do not eat it afterwards, after you have left it out for the day then it is okay to throw it away or put it in your compost pile in the backyard and recycle the energy.
3. Flowers Just like taking flowers when you are visiting your spirit friends and family in the cemetery you can make a special place for them at home. Have their picture out for the holiday season with flowers in front of it. Place the picture where it gets to watch all the action happening at home. Flowers placed in a circle as a garland represents the cycle of life, their energy has merely transformed and is never completely gone. Keep them fresh and once they start to wilt throw them away.
Fresh flowers are better than fake, if you use fake always keep them dusted and looking new. If they had some favorite flowers buy those if not anything from your heart is wonderful. And if you’re short on money then it’s okay to go for a walk and pick some beautiful flowers too.
Spirits are always with us. When our loved ones pass they simply transform energy into another form. Their love for you is still there and they are watching over you. So take the time to show them your appreciation. Let them feel invited this holiday season and give honor to who they were and how magnificently they touched your life. Every moment should be a celebration of love and life.